Archive for September 2008

First Team Sports Blow

I’m afraid I made a parenting error.

Every year I ask My Kid if she wants to play soccer and every year she says “no”.

But, this year she said “yes” because we thought she could play with her friends.

At the end of the last school year, I was talking on the playground with the mothers of two of My Kid’s best friends in her class. Their girls were on the same soccer team and really enjoyed it. My Kid was interested in playing soccer with her friends. So I paid my money and I signed my kid up and I requested that she be with her two friends. Their mothers they signed up their girls and each requested the other two.

Well, we’ve gotten the team rosters and none of our girls are on the same team.

I think the family with the dad who volunteered isn’t even assigned to his own kid’s team. Now I understand the concept of not coaching your own that in theory, but I don’t see how that is going to work in logistical family Saturday morning get out of the house reality if the dad and the son and the daughter are all on separate teams with separate schedules.

I don’t know. I’m disappointed for my kid. But, I’ll keep my mouth shut and see how it plays out. Maybe she will be fine. Maybe she knows some of the kids I don’t know.

But, as a family unaccustomed to being dressed at 8:00 am on a Saturday, much less outside and ready for athletic activity halfway across town. This does not bode well.

Nailing Jello to A Tree

Here’s the postcard for our show:

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2008 New York Clown
Theatre Festival Cabaret
Thursday September 11, 10:30 p.m.
Brick Theater, 575 Metropolitan Avenue
Williamsburg, BKLYN (info@bricktheater.com)
(L to Lorimer G to Metropolitan)

Without a shop…

Today Lorraine is building the shadow puppet frame.

We just got back from the hardware store where Lorraine had planned to have them cut the wood she selected her, but it was $2 a cut, and she needed about four cuts so it would have cost more than the lumber which was only about $3. It’s New York City and we live in an apartment so we’re being nickel and dimed to death.

Lorraine is down on the front stoop right now with My Kid watching her cut the wood. She has her own tools, but we don’t have space. Thank goodness it’s not raining.

It would be so much easier if we lived in a whole house somewhere like my home town where my father and brother both have houses with full basements and shops with table saws. The Husband is not the only person in this family who would enjoy a shop in the basement.

But, if we lived in a whole house somewhere I wouldn’t be able to get myself safely to a theatre space in Williamsburg to perform in a late night cabaret and then get home in time to sleep a few hours before getting My Kid off to school.

After rehearsal

I’m starving and exhausted.
We had a little production meeting, the two of us, while walking home from the studio. We’ve got a 2 hour rehearsal tomorrow and a 4 hour rehearsal on Wednesday and 2 final hours for our “dress rehearsal” on Thursday when we also expect to have our tech at the theatre. That’s going to be a long day: rehearsal in the studio at 10:00 am and a performance in the theatre at 10:30 pm. I need to make sure that I eat breakfast and all those other meals and get enough sleep or I’m going to make myself sick. I just remembered a meeting I have on Wednesday morning at 9:00 am and there are all the after school pick-ups at 3:00pm every day. The school day is not very long. I really only have 6 hours to deal with each that I can fill with rehearsals, and music, and costumes, and writing (which I usually have to do after 11:00pm which is why it often doesn’t get finished (I’ve got 40 unfinished drafts in my queue). Lorraine is the puppeteer. She’s taking care of the props.

Falling Behind

I am exhausted and completely frustrated and my head hurts from clenching my jaw because My Kid did not go to school today. The lines were drawn and I lost the battle. She stayed up too late after we got home from the barbecue in New Jersey and I don’t know what happened but she was dressed and we got as far as the front door of our building where we then spent about 45 minutes of me being patient and using all my parenting skills not wring her neck.

When I finally told her through my clenched teeth that I was all out of patience, she sobbed; “You’re only out of patience, but I’ve got nothing!”

It’s not like she’s a toddler. I can’t pick her up and strap her in a stroller and take her anywhere I want. We don’t live in the suburbs or a small town, I can’t lock the door behind her so she can’t get back in the house has to make her way to school by herself. I don’t have a car I can force her into and let her cry it out on the way to school. Life is lived publicly and politically in New York City.

I gave her the choice of going back upstairs going back to bed and having a sick day with NO TV AT ALL or going to school. At this point she was going to be so late, a visit to the office would be required before going into her classroom and all the other little kids would be asking where she was, why was she late. Eventually Lorraine (who used to teach) came down and talked to her and we started towards Brooklyn Heights but first she was going to go with us to the bank. After that she said she didn’t want to go to school and I let her win, because I only have so much time before the performance on Thursday. So we’re on the way to the studio and she is coming with us.

Aghhh!

I have finally confirmed and made all the phone calls including to the school office regarding the neighbor who will pick up my kid along with hers after school so I can be in rehearsal in a studio for maybe 2 hours if I’m lucky.

The Summer is Over and I am Overwhelmed with Guilt

Yesterday, all the places I didn’t take my child, all the time we didn’t spend going to the beach or making art together… All that time I spent acting like a frazzled distracted mom and not at all like an enthusiastic 19-year-old camp counselor. (Who am I kidding, we remember those camp counselors–so distracted by the 19-year-old boys they barely knew which kids they were watching.)

I’m really only talking about the last 2 weeks and how we have not done as much as I had hoped, (But we did go to Fire Island, and we did go to Coney Island to see a Cyclone’s game, and we did paint some pictures…) holding out hope until the end, until the very last day of summer vacation that we would get to all those things, even though, as we may recall I looked at the calendar right after school got out in June and knew we wouldn’t get through all our Mommy Camp plans.

The things we did together… Well, summer is over now. It wasn’t enough!