Conversation turned to who we used to be: beautiful young women. Now we are getting used to being invisible in public. Some of us are tired mothers with altered bodies and neglected wardrobes. We no longer attract attention of strange men on the street. Online dating sights are full of men our own age who are looking to date women between 18 and 25. We are sliding to invisibility in the public world, but we are constantly observed, scrutinized and admired by our children. One woman’s preschool son demands that she take her hair down and wear it long whenever she pulls it back into a ponytail. My daughter loves to watch TV with her head on my belly (soft like a pillow and completely devoid of sculpted abs). She also likes to pull on the loose skin at my elbows which I find disconcerting. Are we attracted to creating our own clown work because we no longer interest (nor do we care about interesting) directors who choose actresses based on youth, beauty and eagerness?