BPP

Idle chat turned to real estate during rehearsal, something that didn’t matter before we became parents and found out we don’t live in good school districts.

We were leafing through the glossy New York Family magazines available in the lobby of the Manhattan Children’s Theatre, there in Tribeca. They were full of ads for multi-million dollar apartments and private schools and articles about “Kid Culture in the Hamptons”.

One of the other mommies expressed frustration with her job and the difficulties of combining work and nursing a baby. She was incredulous that a co-worker blythely suggested she reduce her stress level by hiring a nanny. Classic BPP (Bitter Poor Person) thinking in the lexicon of New York urbanbaby.com

I once read a post on that message board asking: “How much money do you normally spend on personal grooming? The original poster confessed to “about $2000 per month including haircuts, manicures, waxing, and massages….” The UB chat rooms are famous for obsessive school comparison shopping. Other threads question how many people need to be hired to “staff a party” and whether it is physically possible to live in New York on less than 200 thousand dollars per year.

A different friend of mine was once asked at a job interview (publishing) if she expected to live on the salary. As a matter of fact she did. Now if she took the job, because she majored in English hoping to work for a publishing company in New York, and then ended up resenting her diet of peanut butter and ramen while others with the same job went out every night and wore fashionable clothes and then she would be a BPP.

New York is hard because there are so many people in this city who have sources of money other than their paychecks.

Gypsy on Broadway

I saw Gypsy on Broadway today!

OK I think I myself was completely warped by playing “Dainty June” in a UM Summer Stock production of Gypsy.  My  New York stage clown friends frequently try to get me to stop being “ON” in front of an audience and I realize now there was some feeling of sucess in playing that cartoon vaudeville child that still worked at RBBCC and that I still cling to in some clown situations.  I went to Clown College there was something about it that worked better than anything else I had ever done…

I’m not “Dainty June” anymore, I’m “Mama Rose” now!

Even last night at Clownlab, an exercise and I started doing a spot-on imitation of Sally Anne Howes as the “Music Box Doll” in Chitty Chitty Bang Bang–and I just stopped for no reason–it was just an improv game.  We were just supposed to be action figures–whatever that meant–I started out as “Wonder Woman”.  Whatever the exercise was meant to be it became a send up of ’70’s toys and movies.   It wasn’t like I was auditioning for a play a someone else…

Something about not having permission to be…

This performing thing is complicated…

No wonder my child is not interested…

Patty LuPone was incredible today

Also

Boyd Gaines, who is married to someone I went to high school with, is absolutely charming

I was wondering who the hyper-energetic-girl-I-knew/mare-at-the-starting-gate, has turned into to be married to such a charming man  It must be worth a drink or a coffee to find out.

I am aware of their plays.  I wanted to see Contact at Lincoln Center, but I had a baby and there was that 9/11 event that constricted movement and enthusiasm.  My friend was in The Country Girl and Coram Boy both of which closed before I got around to seening them.  I really meant to seee Twelve Angry Men and really really regretted not seeing it after I had to spend two months of my life as a juror on a Brooklyn murder trial.

I have had no contact with her since we first were moving to New York and my sister got her sister to give her e-mail to me and we corresponded about strollers appropriate to the city.

Tonight,

A dinner at Tratoria Spagetto in Greenwich Village between the church and the fountain.  I love the “Lady and the Tramp” eating spagettiI aesthetic of the place.

The husband’s former co-worker who moved back to India and lives in Bangalore, his wife and daughter.  We have much hope for their classes to exchange letters–“Wow you live in a totally different country, but you have the Disney Channel too!!!! OMG”  Also the husbands former boss and socially ept wife–when will we organize joint vacations???  There are posibilities…

I lost or had stolen my cell phone today,  had to pay for a new one to keep myself and my life in the same place, a future essay I owe this blog about the evils of sharecropping in cyper-space…

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A neighbor is on NPR

In the bedroom cleaning and listening to NPR on the radio, going through old papers and magazines and filling clear plastic bags with recycling.  Doctors Without Borders is mentioned and I realize I recognize the voice, the husband of a mommy-I-know from the playground, playgroup and school, the father of one of my kid’s friends.  We live in New York.

This morning I took the Kid to church, we ended up not sitting through Mass but instead going upstairs to the classroom where my Kid’s First Eucharist teacher and a teenage assistant were helping kids to create hats for the Philip Neri Picnic.  Apparently he was quite a joker, as one of the priests said, explaining how he created a picture of the saint winking.  The kids put cutouts of Phillip Neri on cut paper plates and added ribbons and marker drawings and words.  What they made looked like a cross between a Bishops hat and Minnie Pearl’s Easter bonnet.  Whatever.  There was a funny hat competition at the picnic.

At the picnic my kid and her friend ordered “off the menu” getting hot dogs without buns.  They rode the pony twice and had their faces painted.  My kid was a bunny.  Her friend asked for a venus fly-trap.  “That lady didn’t even know what a venus flytrap was!” This kid’s face was painted with something that looked to me like a purple poinsettia.

Walking home from St. Boniface we passed the afore mentioned “famous” father with his wife and kids.   They were on the way to the train and asked if we’d been to a different neighborhood family’s birthday party, because of the painted face and ribbon covered craft in my hand (the Philip Neri hat).  They were on their way to New Jersey to see friends.  We have our own friends in New Jersey to see this week if it works out– a former co-worker of my Husband.  They’re not in the area long, just a stop along the pilgrimage from India to Disneyworld

I was disappointed that my kid did not want to go see the STREB SLAM show in Williamsburg.  That was the afternoon plan I had in mind.  I miss going to STREB once a week for her to take her classes with the fabulous Fabio.  When My Kid got on the FirstLEGO robotics team STREB went out the window.  Also  My Kid didn’t like the commute.  But STREB was an important part of our lives from her first class when she was 3-years-old.  There was a fantasy–what kind of cool modern dancers would these kids who started at STREB at 3 would be as teenagers.  (check out my husband’s blog for his pride over my baby raising her geek flag.)  Sigh.

There is a clownlab I could go to tonight.  I don’t know if I will be able to make it up to midtown by 7pm. My husband and kid haven’t eaten.  That’s important.  The kid hasn’t done her homework yet.  AND we are still cleaning and getting rid of stuff.  The husband is amazed by how much paper there is to go through, paper, mail, bills, un-read books and magazines since his job situation went into transition.  The transition, still not over, has been going on now for 8 months!  We are worn out.

So nobody (meaning me) planned dinner and we went to Sushi D (the Kid’s favorite neighborhood restaurant) AGAIN!

Now we’re home.  The husband is shredding again (working in the computer industry as he does, he has a healthy lack of faith and insists on shredding anything that has any of our names and a code number on it– which is pretty much every piece of mail that comes into our home)

Going through a box of old magazines–I forgot that I subscribed to “IN THESE TIMES” out of spite after George Bush II was re-elected.  God, I remember the afternoon I spent sitting at the bar at the Cowgirl Bar and Grill on Hudson, when My Kid was in Pre-K at PS-3 in Greenwich Village, watching the election returns with tears running down my cheeks.  The bartender gave me a free beer.

Real Estate is on my mind.  The potluck First Eucharist event last night was at the home of a family of four that has a whole brownstone all to themselves.  At the picnic today I overheard one of the priests telling some people that the two white clapboard houses next to the church AND the two brownstones on the block don’t belong to the chuch but belong to him (Bruce Ratner???)  “He loves them.  He brought them here from other locations.”  (Bruce Ratner’s cabinet of curiosities–4 unoccupied houses on Duffield Street) OK I can’t even process that right now…